GUYS AND GIRLS CAN'T BE FRIENDS

Its been a while since I ranted about this, so here goes...

I have said for a long time, consistent with the message in When Harry Met Sally, that guys and girls cannot be friends.

Let me clarify what I mean by this.

I mean that to expect, as a girl (single or not), that you can have a very close guy friend with whom you hang out and talk with frequently, as you would with a girl friend (this means one on one much of the time, not just in a group) and this can go on for years without becoming complicated with feelings one way or both ways, is simply just unrealistic. 

I guess, unless perhaps the guy is gay. Then I assume it could work.

Now I remember from being single, how comforting it was to have a guy friend. It was like, well I'm single, but so is he at least! And guys can be super fun to hang out with and all that, so I get why you would want this. Even when you are with someone it can be nice, but if you are with someone and still want to see a guy friend one and one frequently, thats not the best sign. 

But to think that the two of you are going to spent lot of time, just the two of you, hanging out, talking, whatever and one of you not developing feelings for the other is just naive. He is a guy and even if you know you don't want to date him, unless he truly has no other friend options, there is a reason he is hanging out with you and not his buddies. Lets be real here.

This setup can work for a while, sometimes years even, but it can not last. 

The reason I'm so emphatic with these points, is because I have often seen and heard girls complaining about this. Complaining that their "guy friend" either likes them or is being weird towards them because they did not agree to date them, or because their friend got a girlfriend and now can't hang out as much (probably because he liked you and the new girlfriend knows it, or he knows it, or both!).

Making this mistake one or twice is understandable. But its when people do it over and over and never learn and still try to get their friendship requirements met by dudes they don't like. It just aint gonna work! The whining of "why can't we just be friends?" "why is he being weird all of a sudden?" and "I thought he was my friend" and being all hurt about it time after time, just gets old. You chose to set yourself up for this "friendship" and you gotta know it wont last. 

To all girls: get girl friends. And don't give me the "girls are too much drama! I hate drama!" BS excuse. I have lots of low maintenance no drama friends. The well-adjusted normal ones will be there for you much much longer, and we promise not to fall in love with you.

Rant over. :)